Call It A Day

This is going to be short since I just finished working a stressful, 10-hour day in real estate. I dealt throughout the day with two separate agents, and the first one was so unbelievably contentious that my heart rate (which is already problematic due to anxiety and stress from losing Zane and from the BC) soared to scary heights. Thankfully, I don't have to work with the first agent through this deal. 

I also wound up with two rejections for my memoir and received news about my abdominal ultrasound, which requires follow-up. Things are not going the way I want (and need) them to, and this only exacerbates my sadness and makes the grief wash over me in torrents.

But I managed some self-care by going to the gym and finally taking a shower. Ultimately, I'll decompress by reading. Then I'll start again tomorrow. The thing is: when there are too many down days, they tend to become cumulative. That makes it much harder to elevate myself out of any funk. 

That said, how are you doing today? Did you have any downs? Any ups?



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